Bullies.

Bullies are *ssholes.

That's probably one of the truest things to have ever been said by anyone, and I don't think people really recognise just how many victims are saying that.

So, out of the thousands of young people that are bullied - how many of them are listened to? Well, at my school, not many people are listened to. No matter how many times someone screams I'M BEING BULLIED, nothing is done. Teachers and pastoral care think that talking to bullies fixes things, but the mean that runs through their veins courses so deep that it's ingrained into their DNA (whoa). Putting it like that makes it seem impossible to stop bullying, but it really isn't. Teachers at my school say stuff like,  all it takes is a simple no, but that's a massive lie.

If we say no, we get mocked and bullied more.

If we say no, the bullies get us in trouble.

If we say no, people assume that we are just standing up for someone else. That there's just no way we are being bullied.

This makes me sound like a cynic, hypocrite, and like a big baby - but I'm not. I just don't understand how people can be so heartless, how people can just let things pass under the radar.

I want to spread the word, to let people know that while you think you're fixing everything and just being so good at it. You aren't. I do not mean this as a slam, but if you want to help stop bullying, just saying no and holding bullying seminars isn't going to help. It's bent (yes, I've been watching a lot of Dark Angel). I'm sorry to say all this, I really am, but what I do know is that it's going to be extremely difficult to solve the problem we've come to know as bullying. So why not call the bullies out? If you're a bully, there's a 90% chance that you will never admit to it unless you absolutely have to. You are all old enough to know what characteristics virtually all bullies share, so I won't bore you with those facts. 

However, I will say this: no matter how many times you've been on the receiving end, no matter how many times you've been the one dialling out punches, it's god to stop. To those that are complaining all the time, get off your *ss and stand up for yourself. Bullying isn't an excuse to act like a timid rabbit and blame the whole world for things that one person or you have done. To those that are hurting people, sit back down on your *ss and think about all the humans (and even animals) that you've hurt. No one needs to sit through all this mental and physical abuse like it's just everyday life.

What I want to know is why. Why can't bullies apologise? Why can't people affected by bullying stand up for themselves? If you are being bullied, blaming the whole world and acting like a timid victim, why? If you're hurting people being you've been hurt, why? None of this is going to help, and it's just going to hurt you more. 

I apologise if I'm offending anyone or if this seems a little psycho but I've got to say this. Like I stated before, you can be on the receiving end, or you can be dialling out verbal slaps and actual punches like there's no tomorrow. Some of this isn't even bullying though, if a guy calls you ugly - so what? If a girl stormed off while you were speaking to her - who cares? If a friend spoke their mind - good for them! No matter what side you're on, remember that in this day of age you can get help and actually try to stop bullying. No one wants to see their best friend turn into a bully, or see them get bullied. 

No one wants their friend to turn around and tell them that they don't understand anything, that they just don't get them, that they just lie down and let the bullies say whatever they want. My best friend said that to me, so to her and everyone else involved in bullying: let's help out all the kids, and young adults out there getting hurt when they really don't have to be.

~Au Revoir!~

P.S To everyone that has come out on top after being bullied, or after being a bully, I'm so proud of all of you. It probably means nothing coming from some girl with a little blog, but it means that you guys & girls didn't let bullying beat you. You beat it.

Firsts in love and romance

Hi everyone!

I've been on YouTube a lot lately (procrastinating, what can I say?), and came across a lot of videos with the title "My First Time". Basically, the YouTuber states various firsts of their lives e.g. their first boyfriend or their first phone. This blogpost isn't going to be a "Firsts" per se, but I realised just how uncomfortable it can make people (especially girls), when the topic of first boyfriends/girlfriends and first kisses comes about. 

If you had your first kiss/boyfriend very young you can feel kind of sucky. Like you wasted that one chance or like you let something go that could have been really important to future you. However, if you had your first boyfriend/kiss quite late in life, it makes you feel like you're lacking behind everyone else and feel really sad that you don't get the same chances in romance as everyone else. 

I'm here to tell you this: everything will be okay, because ultimately - who cares? Be honest, in twenty years, I doubt I'll remember who my first boyfriend was. For a while now, a thought has been coursing through my mind: if you don't want that to be your first, then it doesn't have to be your first. This means that if you had your first kiss when you were eight years old, and now you're sixteen wondering why you were such a dumb little kid, forget about it. Seriously, if you don't want to count it as your first kiss because you had another kiss with your boyfriend when you were fifteen, then make the latter your "first kiss".

This seems like such a lame topic to discuss, but when you get more into it and think of the serious side (your first time having sex or things like that) of things, then you start to understand just how important it is to make sure you are ready to take that step. Sure, you can't chose a different first when it comes to sex, but there are a lot of other times in life when you can. This is the first time I've ever discussed this (I never talked about it in person with anyone), but I had my first kiss because I was pressured into it and ever since… I've regretted it. It seems like I'm just in denial by saying things like well if I don't want that to be my first kiss, it's not, but really I just want to acknowledge the first kiss I was ready for.

Okay, so maybe I am in denial… But when I think about it, I don't think of me avoiding the facts and avoiding my past because it's all okay. All in all, if you don't think you were ready to take that step, you don't have to call it your first. At least, that's how it works in my brain.

~Au Revoir!~